In multiple dog families, the death of a companion is hard, not only on the human survivors, but on the surviving companions as well.  Regardless of how our dogs came into our lives, they form a bond with one another just as they form a bond with us.  These bonds can be quite strong especially when a puppy is introduced to an adult dog already established in the home.  The puppy may follow the adult dog like a shadow, modeling behavior on how to be a dog from him.  Over time, habits are established, companionship grows, and a family is made.  So when one of the dogs dies, we should be concerned about helping the surviving pets heal after the loss of their buddy.
Here are some tips that may help your grieving pet:

1. Reinforce positive behavior and ignore bad or unwanted behavior.  If your dog stands at the door and cries, though it breaks your heart, don’t say anything and don’t approach the dog as comforting them when they are exhibiting unwanted behavior may reinforce the behavior.
2. Keep routines as similar as possible.  Walk the same route as before, give the same treats every day, and keep the same time schedule.  Dogs like routine and it is important that you keep the same schedule as before.  Keep change to a minimum as they are suffering through a big enough one as it is.
3. A pets’ grief reaction can be very different from that of their family members.  Your pet may have a delayed grief reaction or no grief reaction at all or you may have a pet that grieves more than his or her family members.  Pay more attention than usual and keep them on their regular walk and exercise schedule.  Don’t project your feelings onto your dog.
4. Social order will change; expect it.  If there is more than one surviving pet, it is common for them to vie for the alpha status.  One pet may eat the other pet’s food or treats.  Your pet’s general behavior may change such as being over-protective and barking more.
5. Keep your dog busy with mind-stimulating toys, treat hiding toys or new squeaky toys.  Walking your dog regularly can help reduce anxiety levels when you’re not home.
6. Dogs have different personalities.  One may love squeaky toys while the other does not.  One may enjoy treat-hiding toys while to other shows no interest.  Have fun getting to know your pet for who they are, not just as the surviving companion.
7. Keep an eye on your pet’s health.  It is common for your grieving pet to be more tired than usual, to eat less, or be less playful.  Go with your intuition; if you feel it has gone on too long or if the pet’s health is compromised, see your veterinarian.
8. Do not be overprotective of your surviving pets.  When we humans experience a loss, we tend to hold surviving friends and family members closer to us and you may do the same to your surviving pets.  If you find you cannot let your dog leave your side at the dog park, question whether you are doing it for them or for you.
9. Be careful of not bonding to your surviving pets.  After a loss, some people may distance themselves from people around them and their pets.  Ask for help from a friend or family if you cannot attend to your pet’s needs.  If the pet is neglected, their grief as well as misbehaviors increase.  At this point, you may want to consider attending a pet loss support group.

Losing a pet is painful for all family members, two legged and four.  Remember, patience and understanding goes a long way!